Individual Therapy

Struggling to be yourself in your closest relationships.

The feelings and emotions you experience are real, but somehow you feel like you have to pretend and wear a mask.

Maybe you are unsure about how being honest about your feelings impacts your relationships.

Unfortunately, most of us are not taught how to really care for our well-being while being in relationship with the other key people in our life.

We are actually discouraged to experience what we are feeling.

We develop our social masks to make ourselves acceptable so we can fit in – with our parents, relatives, siblings, friends, and colleagues.

Most of us are not taught how to communicate in healthy ways, make self-honoring choices, set workable boundaries, or find healthy strategies to meet important universal needs.

It can be very difficult and stressful to create a safe space where you can be honest if you don’t have the support you need in a key relationship.

When we are stressed over time, we become depleted and have less energy for renewal and creativity. We begin to notice a host of hidden forces that seem to direct our behaviors in negative ways despite our best intentions.

We are actually discouraged from a young age to experience what we are feeling.

And, we are encouraged to ignore the internal messages our mind and body are trying to send.

Stress is the trash of modern life–we all generate it, but if you don’t dispose of it properly,
it will pile up and overtake your life.

~Danzae Pace

Learn to Manage Stress for Health and Well-being

The stressful challenges you face in your key relationships can and do impact your overall health and well-being, depending on your reaction to stress.

Studies have shown that stress is associated with many physical health conditions, including cardiovascular related health issues [1].

Marital conflict and negative communications and low marital quality are related to the future manifestation of hypertension, while couples reporting high relationship quality have lover levels of ambulatory blood pressure at home and at work [2].

A path to resilience and freedom

Learning how to effectively deal with unpleasant emotions in a responsible way leaves you feeling empowered to make self-honoring choices.

I work with you so you can avoid failure in your relationship, even when the person you are having challenges with, for whatever reason, is unable or unwilling to attend therapy sessions with you.

In therapy, you will get real-time practice to learn how to move into a state of inner cooperation that lets your brain know that there are things more important than survival – things like connection, inspiration, enthusiasm, and fulfillment – things like playfulness and creativity.

Coming in to address your relationship issues is an act of courage.

There are many opportunities to move into deeper levels of inner freedom based on your values, your personality, and the relationship challenges you are facing.

Using a unique combination of inner process work and healthy adult functioning skills, I work with individuals who want to avoid failure and experience meaningful breakthroughs in their important but troubled relationships.

Become empowered to experience greater levels of inner freedom in your most important relationships.

Call (310) 993-8255 for a complimentary 15-minute consultation to discuss your unique situation.

[1] Lambert G, Schlaich M, Lambert E, Dawood T, Esler M. Stress reactivity and its association with increased cardiovascular risk: a role for the sympathetic nervous system? Hypertension, 2010; 55(6):e20 and

[2] Tanya M. Spruill. Chronic Psychosocial Stress and Hypertension